Weaving Relationships and Building Bridges

In today’s political climate, where our differences are exaggerated in ways which cause us to hold positions with little room for compromise, we often overlook that most of us share the same needs and concerns.  In the grand scheme of things, the driving forces in life include a general sense of security for ourselves, our families and our communities. When we combine these concerns with our basic needs for food, water and clean air, we find very few differences between one human being and another.

This perspective on our humanity was the topic of my sermon on Rosh HaShanah day where I emphasized that the starting point of our perspectives of those around us needs to be rooted in our commonalities. We need to begin from a place of curiosity rather than suspicion, and we need to approach our differences with an open ear and an open heart.

When we stereotype and second guess the motives of others or judge them entirely based on superficialities like the language they speak, the color their skin, how they vote or who they love, we threaten to compromise the social fabric of our humanity and generate relationships which are rooted in our differences rather than our commonalities.  This can lead to a culture of ugliness, suspicion and distrust.

If, on the other hand, we are able to find ways to love across boundaries, listen more patiently and see each other in ways that allow us to feel more connected, then we can be weavers of relationships and builders of trust and understanding. It is in the spirit of weaving relationships and building bridges that I share this beautiful letter signed by forty-five leaders in the Muslim community.

Shanah Tovah! To our Jewish brothers and sisters in Houston – we hope the new year brings you goodness, value and more meaning into your lives!

For both our communities, this past year was particularly trying. Together, we faced hate and discrimination, and together we viewed the continued rise of white supremacy in our nation. We also witnessed our communities standing up for one another, and joining hands to combat these evils through dialogue, advocacy, and words of support.

It is reminiscent of the verse in the Quran which says “For indeed, with hardship there will be ease. Indeed, with hardship, there will be ease.”

As we move into the new year, it is our sincere hope that our two communities will continue to build on the momentum of friendship and trust between our people.

May God bless your homes and make this a good new year for you all, and may it be a year of continued hope for our city!

This letter is a strong testament to the work we have done within our faith communities to weave and build relationships based on trust, respect and friendship.  It is my hope to continue

October 30, 2019

Dear Friends,

What does Halloween have to do with Judaism? In a narrow sense, the answer is, “nothing”. However, when we look at our history as a people and the customs that have been passed down to us through the generations, we find that dark forces (although not central to our faith in any way) were, at one time, a very real aspect of our heritage.

While the Bible strictly forbids demonology and the magic that is associated with it, it is evident that our ancestors were not altogether adverse to such practices.

In the Book of Deuteronomy, we demons are mentioned as Moses berates the gods of the Canaanites, referring to them as demons or false gods. Small references like this indicate that, while the Israelites may not have believed that demons exerted much power, they did not refute the idea that demons existed. In fact, in the ancient near east, beliefs in demons were common.

While demons were not as powerful as gods, the ancients believed that dark forces existed and could influence their lives in very concrete ways. A demon was considered to be a tormenting force that could cause great pain and disruption in the world. Demonic torments were evident in personal discomforts such as headaches, fevers and other ailments. Theologically, the idea that demons existed helped explain why evil existed in the world.

It was not until the 2nd and 3rd centuries CE that Jewish literature begins to concern itself with demons and evil spirits. During this period, under the cultural influences of early Christianity, Jewish demonology begins to evolve. In this literature, some demons take the form of ghosts, spirits of the dead, particularly of people who had died violent deaths. Some demons lived alone in graveyards, while others served the lord of the netherworld. For the people of the ancient near east, including our ancestors, demons were a source of fear and concern. They were not gods to be worshiped, but rather forces to be combated.

The instruments and tools used to ward off these dark forces included incantations, amulets and a wide variety of rituals. We know a lot about these ancient beliefs and practices from archaeological discoveries and research. We also know that there are many customs and practices today that are rooted in ancient superstitions. Crossing one’s fingers as a sign of hope or saying “God bless you” after a sneeze are just a couple of many common customs that have very ancient roots in warding off evil.

So what are we to make of demons and evil spirits as Jews today? Certainly, in the Judaism that we practice today, evil spirits and demons fall completely outside of the realm of acceptable belief. That said, in the realm of literature and Jewish culture – the occult is alive. We find it in stories, plays, art and more. And this is where Halloween comes in.

No one would ever argue that Halloween is a Jewish holiday (nor could one argue that Thanksgiving, Valentine’s Day or the Fourth of July are Jewish). They are all American holidays that we choose to celebrate as American Jews.

So tomorrow night, as our children dress up in costume and gather ungodly amounts of candy, enjoy our annual holiday of ghouls and ghosts. We may not believe in demons or evil spirits, but one day a year it sure is fun to pretend!

Steve

October 23, 2019

October 16, 2019

Dear Friends,

Sukkot is a festival filled with remarkable wisdom. From the frail structures we construct to the nature-based rituals we perform; Sukkot helps us recognize that we are all part of something much greater than ourselves. As complex as life can often seem, Sukkot reminds that the simple pleasures are what matter most.

This beautiful fall festival invites us to celebrate our place in cycles of life and encourages us to live according to the following passage from the Book of Ecclesiastes (which is the book of the Bible we read on Sukkot): “. . . there is no better thing under the sun than for one to eat, drink and be joyful.” (Ecclesiastes 8:15).

Sukkot began on Monday. At HCRJ, we have a great new sukkah in our courtyard with enough space for all to enjoy.

Join us on Friday night for our congregational sukkot celebration. Have a nosh in our new sukkah, shake the lulav and the etrog, and get the New Year started in a way that is connected to God and nature.

L’Shalom,
Steve

October 8, 2019

Dear Friends,

Tonight is Kol Nidre. Tonight and for the 24 hours of our Day of Atonement, we will occupy ourselves in prayer, fasting and spiritual growth as we seek to change ourselves for the better. The process of atonement also demands that we turn outward to the world around us. From this perspective, these holy days encourage us to open our eyes to oppression, to open our ears to the cries of others and extend our hearts and our hands to those who need us.

With a spirit of contrition and renewal, may our fasting and prayers for Yom Kippur lead us to find ways to generate change for the better within ourselves and the world around us.

Gamar Chatimah Tovah
May you be sealed for blessings in the Book of Life

Steve

October 2, 2019

Dear Melissa,

Monday marked the first day of the Jewish calendar year. It also launched the beginning of a ten-day period set aside for us to see the world through the lens of spiritual renewal and personal growth. It is a time for honesty and vulnerability, a time for introspection and reflection, a time for rectification and healing.

May our worship together and our celebrations with family and friends be a joyful prelude for a year of growth and renewal and may 5780 unfold with blessings of health and peace for all.

Shanah Tovah — Steve

October Bulletin Article

A wise Indian elder once described his inner struggle:

He reported that inside him are two powerful dogs. One of them is kind and good. The other is mean and evil. These two dogs fight each other all the time.

Someone once asked the Indian elder which of the two dogs wins? He replied: The one that wins is the one that I feed the most.

This parable is at the heart of what Yom Kippur is about – we control who we become.

On Yom Kippur (Tuesday night-Wednesday night this year), we refrain from feeding our physical bodies so that we can more deeply think about how we nourish ourselves spiritually.   It is really easy to slip into patterns of self-deprecation, negativity, or not believing that change is possible.  On Yom Kippur, we work to make sure that we only feed the inner voices that allow us to create positive change in our lives.

Jewish tradition also offers us a recipe for how to embrace this process:

  • Teshuvah – Repentance. We acknowledge what we have done wrong, apologize, and set ourselves on a path to make sure that we do not commit the same wrongs again.
  • Tefilah – Prayer. We recognize that we are not alone. We ask for help from God and our community to recognize the good within.
  • Tzedakah – Charity. We do something good for someone else. This is a tangible reminder that we create positive change in the world.

We do acts of Teshuvah, Tefilah and Tzedakah so that as the sun sets on Tuesday night and Yom Kippur begins, we become sustained by the voices that remind us our value and infinite potential.  G’mar Hatimah Tovah, May we all be inscribed for a good year.

 

September 25, 2019

Dear Friends,

In this week’s Torah portion, our ancestors stand as a united assembly ready to receive the final words of Moses. As Moses looks out over the thousands of people gathered in front of him, he realizes that a generation has passed since the Torah was first received. The people who are assembled before him were merely children at Sinai. Now, they have children of their own. Now, it is time to renew the covenant with them.

In his address to this new generation of Israelites, Moses begins with a very interesting word choice for the concept of an assembly. He says “Attem nitzaveem” “You stand here. . .”

The Hebrew word “Nitzavim” is significant in that it is not the usual word used for standing. It is a word that is used when taking a stance for a definite purpose—taking one’s place in anticipation of something. It refers to standing still and not moving.

Certainly, there are moments in life when we can only stand still and take it all in. Consider standing at the rim of the Grand Canyon or standing in the presence of a newborn child. At such moments, we stand in awe. At such moments, the universe invites us to pause in humility.

This was the intent of Moses in his opening words to our ancestors. He invites them to stand humble and still in anticipation of a Divine encounter. This kind of humble stillness is what we try to achieve during this High Holy Day Season as well.

In the days ahead, we need to pause. We need to set aside time. We need to stand still and break away from our normal routine—in order to maximize the power that these days offer. When we make that extra effort to break from our daily routines and set aside a full day which is separate and different from the rest of the week and the rest of the year, the kind of standing which is implied by our Torah portion this week (Nitzavim) can truly be appreciated.

Shanah Tovah — Steve

September 18, 2019

Dear Friends,

The Hebrew translation of the phrase, “I am sorry,” is selicha. It is a concept that weighs heavy on our minds during this season.

As we begin to prepare ourselves for the High Holy Days, it is important to take time to consider the actions and behaviors of this past year for which we are sorry. This process will officially begin on Friday night at a special service called, Selichot (which means “apologies”). Through special songs and meditations, we will formally mark the beginning of the penitential season at Houston Congregation for Reform Judaism.

Please join us this Friday Night, September 20 as we begin our spiritual preparations for this season.

Whether it is through a special worship service or through private moments of introspective contemplation, this is the time to begin to examine our behaviors over the past year and prepare our spirits for the Days of Awe. I pray that the ensuing weeks of personal reflection and introspection will be productive and cathartic for each of us.

Shanah Tovah — Steve

September 11, 2019

Dear Friends,

“The opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference”

Eli Wiesel

In this week’s Torah portion, we read a powerful commandment from the Book of Deuteronomy which pre-dates these words by Eli Wiesel by about 5,000 years. In Deuteronomy 22:3, we are commanded:

Lo  TooChal   L’hitalem

“You shall not hide yourself.” Or “You shall not remain indifferent.”

These five words are embedded in a marvelous portion about ethical deeds. They implore us never to remain on the sidelines of those who are in need. Through this commandment we are reminded that when we remain indifferent, we leave ethical and moral decision making completely in the hands of others. When we remain indifferent, we are basically saying: “This wrongful situation is someone else’s problem.”

This commandment not to be indifferent is also central to the High Holiday Season which is just around the corner. On Rosh Hashanah – but even more so on Yom Kippur – we are reminded that we cannot hide from truth and righteousness.

This commandment calls upon us to make a shift in the way that we see the world and our responsibilities to society at large. This commandment implores us to open our eyes and our hearts and be moved from indifference to caring – from blindness to seeing – from complacency to action.

As we prepare for the Holiest Season of the year, let us hearken to this commandment and commit ourselves to standing up for what is right and just in the world.

L’Shalom,
Steve

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